Vixen Proud

I have done goodbyes before BUT this one is going to be the HARDEST that I have EVER had to do. I know, after years of being a military brat, goodbyes are a part of life and they DO NOT get any easier BUT this one breaks my heart. I will NOT give up hope BUT with the announcement coming when and how it did I can’t help but be—–

Utterly Devastated! That is what I am right now!

That was my exact response to a friend when asked how I felt 28 hours after I learned that my alma mater, Sweet Briar College, the Pink Bubble is closing it’s doors 5 months and 22 (now 20) days from now—August 25, 2015! We will have one last graduated class, Class of 2015! In the span of a few hours, their world…my world…..our world was rocked! Students were gathered in the Auditorium at 12:45; an email was sent to Alum at 12:56; I read the email from the college as well a text from my mom along with one from a classmate at 16:30—My world was changed!

I continued my response to my friend with:

I have been crying on and off for the last 24 hours. I am so heartbroken and torn apart by this decision. I can’t believe it and I had NO clue it was coming. From what I gather, none of the alumnae know. At least none who were not part of the Board of Directors. I have so many emotions that I can not even express them right now. I feel as though someone has died. I feel like I am burying a family member. I am SO LOST and overwhelmed! I am ANGRY!

After some reflection on the above, I know that battle is not over! I know that even with SBC closing, I will still have my fellow Vixens and we WILL support each other and see each other. I will still have the great memories, loads of laughter, my fair share of tears, hours of hard work, great friends and sisters, and an education that has prepared me to change the world.

Over the last 48  hours, I have read every news article I can get my hands on; I have called, emailed, and texted my fellow Vixens. We are all in pain!! Even in that pain, we have banned together to try to do what we can to help—We will give words of encouragement to the current VIXENS; raise the money necessary to keep the doors open, if possible; and MOST importantly in my mind share our Sweet Briar Stories—One of our alum made a website SaveSweetBriar, where alumnae have come to share their stories; while tons more alumnae and current students flooded social media, especially twitter and tumblr with messages of strength and love for Sweet Briar tagging them #savesweetbriar. While I am not on facebook right now, due to my lenten promise, I can tell you with a HUGE degree of certainty that the Vixens took to facebook, knowing how passionate and vocal we all are!

For me three things stand out in the last forty hours when I stop and look past the pain—-

1) Wow!! The Alumnae come together fast!!! I knew we did; I watched us do it several times over the past several years since I graduated and even before I graduated for the families of and the alum themselves BUT this time means SO MUCH MORE to me personally! What an amazing group of women I am part of!!!

2) Our brother college Hampton Sydney has some awesome graduates including one who posted a great poem which is a tear-jerking good-bye to a Sister College on his blog and it has now been cross-posted on the Saving Sweet Briar Blog.

3) The last two Virginia Sister Colleges (Hollins and Mary Baldwin) have both opened their doors as has our Georgia Sister (Agnes Scott) to the Sweet Briar Ladies who will be displaced—they will be able to finish their education at an All-Women’s college. While a huge number of Women’s colleges don’t exist any more, the spirit is still ALIVE and STRONG!

Extra Star—4) Two more local colleges (Lynchburg College and Randolph College) and one college in Michigan (Kettering University: just for engineering) will also be accepting applications, which will be expedited. I know in the coming weeks many more places will end up with applications from Sweet Briar Women BUT it is nice to know that 6 colleges have come out and said “Come; we will work with you.”

The out-pour of LOVE and SUPPORT has been awesome and made me smile through the tears!

And on that note, I am off to plan my journey HOME to the PINK BUBBLE while listening to the OUR song, Sweet Briar Women!


Rosam Quae Meruit Ferat

Rosam Quae Meruit Ferat
“She who has earned the rose may bear it.”


Catholic Abstinence

In a recent blog post titled “CNN shocked that some teens not having sex“, Thomas Peters pointed out that even though her given reason for disengeaging is unhappiness, the readers and the author should not ignore the fact that her faith played a role as well.

I have to say a young women in the hook-up culture; I hate it, absolutely, hate it 100%.

The whole story is at CNN but the key points are while most colleges are dominated by the hook-up culture, not everyone participates but 75% of college students or more have participated in the past or are. Good news is that there is a new group out there called Love and Fidelity Network, that at least 12 colleges are part of, which gives out materials on alternatives to hooking up.

Let me say this…I am perfectly happy with NOT hooking up and I DO NOT!!! I can see the emotional and spiritual damage that it does my friends and not want that to happen to me.

Please keep these words in mind.

Don’t let anyone or anything make you feel that you are making the wrong choice practicing chastity before marriage. Any guy who wants to sleep with you, does not love you..NO MATTER what he says!! Also if he does not want to “wait” until you are married, he really does not love you. BECAUSE if you really love someone, you want what is BEST for them, not what is BEST for you alone.

Hollywood Abstinence!

Say “no” to sex scenes? You’re fired! as Jill Stanek blogged. I say AMEN to those actors and actresses that are saying no. They are showing their faith to the world.

In light of all of the ‘bad’ press in terms of Catholic morals, this article reminds me what makes my/our faith so fantastic. We respect humans and respect our body as well as God’s Plan.

Thank you for reminding the world that Catholic’s CAN NOT be bought! We DO stick up for our morals.

Superbowl views

First let me start with the fact that I am not really a football fan nor do I really have a favorite team.

In response to Two Thoughts on the Superbowl: Neither Involves Chicken Wings; I have a few things to say. I don’t really want to debate this but I don’t want stay silent.

1. I also do hope the Saints win. I also don;t care about stats nor follow them nor I have something againist Peyton Manning (nor do I know much about either team!). However I do have issues with Scott Fujia’s personal views. I am delited that he has a MAsters in Education, as a future educator, and his BA in political science does not hurt either, as a military brat. 🙂 However his support of abortion as me concerned. I am HEAVILY Pro-life. I think that he should remember that he was given the chance to see what he could make with his LIFE!! He should give all future children!! One never knows what they can do: cure cancer….save the world. :):):) However points to him for standing up and speaking up, even if I disagree with him.

2. Points to Tim Tebow for standing up for his views (Pro-life) and his religious views (painting bible verses on his cheeks). Focus on the Family does some amazing work and has some fantastic rescources, so allow me to poliently disagree with your view of the organization being horrible and hateful. They are supportive and kind as well as well-run.  I think you misunderstand HIS religious views! Mrs. Tebow was given a choice and she did chose to keep Tim. The point is she respected her body and God’s gift!!

Although I agree that there is much for Superbowl ads being neutral; since many many people around the world watch the Superbowl it is a fantastic venue to get your point across and seen.

The great thing is that venue was widened this year. The controversial ad that Focus on the Family set up as caused a lto of dialogue  on all of the major television networks, outlets, and SNL!

But what’s most amazing about these charges is that they’re based entirely on conjecture–none of our critics has yet seen the ad! (Beginning on Sunday, after the game, you can access the ad on.) …..

A “win-win” already!
The Super Bowl is the single biggest TV attraction of the year. What better way to reach what many estimate could be 100 million people with a life and family-affirming message? People seeking help with their marriages or children will see a message of hope during one of the biggest family gatherings of the year.

-Tom Minnery (Senior Vice President, Government & Public Policy, Focus on the Family) in an email (Feb. 5, 2010)

Even the Catholic Bishops have gotten into the spirit of the fun; read about it at Catholic Super Bowl Spirit. They saw the fun rivalry in the game.

U.S. Air Force—supercomputer from PS3s

U.S. Air Force building supercomputer from PS3s and Turning PlayStations into power stations

The above article is interesting in of it’s own but what attracted me to the article is the fact that I have a personal connection: I used to lived in Rome, NY. My friends want me convice my father to move back there and get a job so that they can play on the supercomputer. 🙂

I have to say that that currently it is warmer in Rome, NY then here at campus.

When I called my father to tell him about the article, my father said that made sense since the research facility was there. I whined and said like I remember much more than the snow, going to school in the snow and the lovely Canadian Royal Air Guard as well as the beginnings of my fancy times in the military and passion for patriotism.

A HARD job at anytime

Time and time again I read through fellow blogger’s pages…most are military. At one of them that I found today, I found an article about being a notification officer. The SandGram posted both the story and an interview.  This story is important for two reasons: 1) It makes it a little clearer to both the civilians and the families how hard that particular job is, so THANK YOU TO ALL OF THE NOTIFICATION OFFICERS OUT THERE!!; 2) the story or at least what is means is personally relevant in terms of I babysat the children of one, while the division was deployed. He would come pick me up so that I could babysit for his kids and normally he was in uniform (sometimes dress uniform). I can only imagine what my neighbors were thinking! I never asked him about his job BUT I could see the toil it was taking on him…just in his eyes and the way he walked.

Below is pieces of the article : “A Burial At Sea” By LtCol Goodson.

In my 76th year, the events of my life appear to me, from time to time, as a series of vignettes. Some were significant; most were trivial.

War is the seminal event in the life of everyone that has endured it. Though I fought in Korea and the Dominican Republic and was wounded there, Vietnam was my war.


It was late 1967. I had just returned after 18 months in Vietnam . Casualties were increasing. I moved my family from Indianapolis to Norfolk , rented a house, enrolled my children in their fifth or sixth new school, and bought a second car.

A week later, I put on my uniform and drove 10 miles to Little Creek, Virginia. I hesitated before entering my new office. Appearance is important to career Marines. I was no longer, if ever, a poster Marine. I had returned from my third tour in Vietnam only 30 days before. At 5′9″, I now weighed 128 pounds – 37 pounds below my normal weight. My uniforms fit ludicrously, my skin was yellow from malaria medication, and I think I had a twitch or two.


I sat down with the Sergeant Major. We had the obligatory cup of coffee and talked about mutual acquaintances. Walt’s stress was palpable.
Finally, I said, “Walt, what’s the h-ll’s wrong?” He turned his chair, looked out the window and said, “George, you’re going to wish you were back in Nam before you leave here.. I’ve been in the Marine Corps since 1939. I was in the Pacific 36 months, Korea for 14 months, and Vietnam for 12 months. Now I come here to bury these kids. I’m putting my letter in. I can’t take it anymore.” I said, “OK Walt. If that’s what you want, I’ll endorse your request for retirement and do what I can to push it through Headquarters Marine Corps.”

Sergeant Major Walt Xxxxx retired 12 weeks later. He had been a good Marine for 28 years, but he had seen too much death and too much suffering. He was used up.

Over the next 16 months, I made 28 death notifications, conducted 28 military funerals, and made 30 notifications to the families of Marines that were severely wounded or missing in action. Most of the details of those casualty notifications have now, thankfully, faded from memory. Four, however, remain.


The next morning I called a personal friend, Lieutenant General Oscar Peatross, at Headquarters Marine Corps and said, “General, get me the f*ck out of here. I can’t take this sh_t anymore.” I was transferred two weeks later.

I was a good Marine but, after 17 years, I had seen too much death and too much suffering. I was used up.

Vacating the house, my family and I drove to the office in a two-car convoy. I said my goodbyes. Sergeant Jolly walked out with me. He waved at my family, looked at me with tears in his eyes, came to attention, saluted, and said, “Well Done, Colonel. Well Done.”

I felt as if I had received the Medal of Honor!

That is all

A mess!

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Let me tell you I do not want to be part of it but….I do think it is worth knowing about.

I typically try to keep my political views to myself and I will for the most part.

I do have to say when you makes cadets fall asleep, we might need to reevaluate when, what, and how you are addressing things as well as possibly even your policies. But the bigger question is what are the reasons being having that specific address happen at West Point, I mean there were other logical places.

Two of my fellow bloggers have their own views on the policy and reasons which you can read here and here. However one cadet got an idea before even listening to the speech, while his fellow is getting a little annoyed about the wait, understandably so this close to finals and everything.